15 Things that will drive you crazy.



Here is your Hippie Fix for the day. One of my friends sent me the link to this blog, which resulted in my query, “Why are you reading a blog called the Purpose Fairy?” He has yet to respond, and I am afraid of the possibilities.

The blog (and subsequent Facebook page – if you’re brave enough to go there) are written by “Dana” who “photographs thoughts and sells emotions” as a livelihood. She reminds me of a girl I knew in college that would say deep things like “color has weight” and “smells have texture”, especially after taking too many psilocybin  mushrooms. She says she “likes to think she was born on the Moon” but apparently her birth certificate doesn’t support that claim. She fits right in with the whole Occupy group even though she is currently in Kuala Lumpur.
The link that was sent to me is called “15 Things You Should Give Up to be Happy”. Given that my friend is well-grounded, intelligent and does not usually ride Unicorns, I decided to take peek. Some things you just can’t “un-see” or “un-hear” or “un-know” once you have been exposed.

But I could not help but take—and-respond to her 15 things point by point with the appropriate translation, and with a little help from my friends.

1. Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

Translate: The downside of being right all the time is that people tend to assume you’re pretentious.

2. Give up your need for control. Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

Translate: Some people dream of success, while other people live to crush those dreams.

3. Give up on blame. Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

Translate: The secret to success is knowing who else to blame for your failures.  Just ask our President.

4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle

Translate: Every person deserves a chance to prove their own incompetence.  Again, just ask our President.

5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly! “A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle

Translate: Believe in yourself, because the rest of us think you’re an idiot.

6. Give up complaining. Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

Translate: In the battle between you and the world, bet on the world.
7. Give up the luxury of criticism. Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

Translate: When you wish upon a falling star, your dreams can come true. Unless it’s really a meteorite hurtling to the Earth which will destroy all life. Then you’re pretty much hosed no matter what you wish for. Unless it’s death by meteor.

8. Give up your need to impress others. Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

Translate: For every winner, there are dozens of losers. Odds are you’re one of them.

9. Give up your resistance to change. Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it. “Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell

Translate: If you never try anything new, you’ll miss out on many of life’s great disappointments.

10. Give up labels. Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open.

Translate: Minds are like parachutes. Just because you’ve lost yours doesn’t mean you can borrow mine.

11. Give up on your fears. Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt

Translate: Until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore, you will not know the terror of being forever lost at sea.

12. Give up your excuses. Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

Translate: If you keep giving yourself the benefit of the doubt, eventually you’ll start to doubt your benefit.

13. Give up the past. I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

Translate: It hurts to admit when you make mistakes – but when they’re fatal enough, the pain only lasts a second.

14. Give up attachment. This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

Translate: There is no greater joy than soaring high on the wings of your dreams, except maybe the joy of watching a dreamer who has nowhere to land but in the ocean of reality.

15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations. Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

Translate: If you can’t learn to do something well, learn to enjoy doing it poorly.

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9 Responses to 15 Things that will drive you crazy.

  1. R.D. Walker says:

    Dang, if we give up those things we might as well shut the Revo down today, huh?

  2. R.D. Walker says:

    “color has weight” and “smells have texture”

    None of which is nearly as offensive as this: “Freedom is surrendering to the will of the collective.”


  3. BrunDawg says:

    People who don’t think that smells have texture have never had the burrito grande at El Tapatio.

  4. Van-a-gram says:

    “freedom is surrendering to the will of the Collective” hearkens back to “Freedom’s just another word for nothing left to lose.”

  5. R.D. Walker says:

    I get what Joplin was trying to say there. She meant that, only when you have lost everything else, can you be truly free. Free from responsibility… Free from maintaining material goods… Free from maintaining relationships…

    But to say that when you have freedom you have nothing left to lose is beyond wrong. It is metaphysical, quantum, atomically wrong.

  6. Jim22 says:

    Kristofferson, actually wrote it.

  7. Jim22 says:

    Someone needs to send that list of fifteen to Obama. He needs it.

  8. rj says:

    15 things that made my head hurt

  9. notamobster says:

    Alot of the good fairy’s words are right… in a campy, trustfund, hippie sort of way. It’s great to take life advice from the posters used as corporate decor, but the splash of cold water that most of us know as reality – is a bitch and tends to create alot of cynics.