Would you let an unchaperoned 35 year old man go camping for the weekend with your 14 year old daughter and her girl friends? No? Why not? Do you hate heterosexuals? Do you assume that all heterosexuals are child predators? What kind of a bigot are you?
Nah, nobody says that. Everybody understands that you don’t send teenage girls off alone for overnight activities alone and unchaperoned with adult men. It just isn’t done.
Of course if you make similar comments about your 14 year old son on a camping trip with 35 year old, openly gay man, that is exactly what you will hear. Here is the point.
History’s being made this month. Last week, President Barack Obama became the first president to use the term “gay” in reference to sexual orientation in an inauguration speech. And on Monday the Boy Scouts of America — which successfully fought against allowing gays into its ranks all the way to the U.S. Supreme Court in 2000 — said it may reverse its policy next week.
Just last summer BSA had reaffirmed its stand to keep gays out. But it wasn’t a popular move. Membership in BSA is on the decline — and financial support is falling as well. The Merck Company Foundation, Intel Foundation, UPS and United Way have stopped or postponed donations due to the anti-gay policy of the 102-year-old organization.
Two members of the Boy Scouts of America national executive board: Ernst & Young CEO James Turley and AT&T CEO Randall Stephenson have supported dumping the ban on gays in favor of inclusion regardless of sexuality.
It is probably inevitable and I support it. There are gay people in the world. There always have been gay people in the world and pretending otherwise won’t change it. No one should be discriminated against for being what they are born to be and I am convinced homosexuals are born to be homosexuals.
Still, being gay doesn’t mean you get special treatment. We have long understood it to be inappropriate for adult men to supervise girls in sleep-over situations. We all know why this is the case. The identical logic applies to gay man and boys. If this assumption is reasonable for straight men and girls, it is reasonable for gay men and boys. The Boy Scouts of America should keep this in mind.